Negotiation
Skills Training
You were five
and you wanted a cookie. You were 10 and you wanted to stay up late
and watch the end of a movie. You were sixteen and you wanted to
borrow the car. You were chairman of the church bazaar committee
and needed to work in the same space as the youth potluck dinner.
In each case, what did you do? You negotiated, of course! Maybe
it was nothing all that formal or official, but you said how you
felt and you asked for what you needed, and that is the beginning
of negotiating. The idea of negotiation scares a lot of people,
but they have been doing it all of there lives. In our Win-Win
Negotiation Training Seminar, all we do is to give you the tools
you need to be an even more effective negotiator.
Get the scoop on the
other side before you meet them at the bargaining table.
If you don't
know exactly who you're up against, you could shake on a deal and
walk away missing a few fingers. Improve your chances of success
by finding out in advance the answers to these questions:
1. Who's
got the upper hand? Few negotiations occur between evenly matched
players. How do you stack up against your opponent? Who's got superior
leverage, bargaining skills or momentum? Who wants the deal more?
Strategy starts with assessing the other side's strengths and weaknesses,
as well as your own.
2. Who's the
decision-maker? Know whether you're dealing with a pawn, a bishop,
a rook or even the king himself. Note titles, but remember they
mean different things in different companies. Ferret out the true
pecking order. Find out how approvals are given so that you can
move things along.
3. What's
negotiable; what's not? Choose your battles carefully. Because
businesses institute uniform policies to help them run smoothly,
declaring an issue non-negotiable is just another way to steamroll
you. Work your grapevine. Your best sources are either inside the
company or what you've learned from previous negotiations.
4. What
does the other side really want? Consider this classic anecdote:
Two kids are squabbling over the last orange in the fridge. When
Dad hears the ruckus, he goes into the kitchen and is sure he's
got the answer. He slices the fruit into equal halves and gives
one to each kid. Surprisingly, no one is happy. Why? Because one
kid just wanted the pulp, and the other just wanted the rind. The
moral is, don't jump to conclusions about what the other side wants.
Try to find underlying interests. Often, the differences between
two companies make agreements possible.
5. How does
the other side negotiate? You'd think that a bumpkin would be
a pushover and a veteran would negotiate the shirt off your back.
Sometimes, it's just the opposite. An ace knows the ropes, evaluates
concessions and recognizes a fair deal. A naive opponent's too insecure
to give and take, so he or she stonewalls. It's especially important
to build trust with beginners.
Last month,
I discussed gender and negotiation. In a world increasingly dominated
by international, multinational and transnational corporations,
cultural differences are just as important whether you're dealing
with foreign businesses or second- or third-generation Americans.
Check out the literature on the topic, because it will probably
apply to many of your encounters.
We all bring
our quirks to the bargaining table, so heed the words of the great
financier Andre Mayer: "The merger business is 10 percent analysis
and 90 percent psychoanalysis."
By Marc Diener

"Negotiation
Traing Skills - Negotiating Strategies Are a Must"
Negotation
Training Quote
"The
successful person makes a habit of doing what the failing person
doesn't like to do."
Thomas Edison
Suggested
Reading:
A
pre-negotiation model: Theory & training : project on pre-negotiation
summary (Policy studies / the Leonard Davis Institute)
by Jay Rothman
The
Elements of Police Hostage and Crisis Negotiations: Critical Incidents
and How to Respond to Them
by James Lynn Greenstone
Essentials
of Negotiation
by Roy J Lewicki
Strategic
Negotiation : A Breakthrough Four-Step Process for Effective Business
Negotiation
by Max Bazerman
Harvard
Business Essentials Guide to Negotiation
by Not Applicable
Bargaining
for Advantage : Negotiation Strategies for Reasonable People
by G. Richard Shell
Women
Don't Ask : Negotiation and the Gender Divide
by Linda Babcock, Sara Laschever
Global
Business Negotiations: A Practical Guide
by Claude Cellich, Subhash Jain
25
Role Plays for Negotiation Skills
by Ira Asherman, Sandy Aherman
Negotiation
Skills in the Workplace: A Practical Handbook
by Larry Cairns
Developing
Negotiation Skills in Sales Personnel
by David A. Stumm
Negotiation
Skills
by B. Eunson
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